I'm sorry you're having a bad time, Red SPS. There is absolutely no getting away from the fact that men and women are genetically programmed to,at best,get on each others nerves and at worst make you want to kill them, or yourself. The 'talking' option can work if you're prepared to be sympathetic and listen properly, otherwise you'll make matters worse.
In my last long term relationship, I used to go out on the bike to get away from it all and that in itself caused massive rows. Which is why I left the bike mainly in the garage for 2 years.
Life is much more peaceful, and fun, now. Just me, me bike and me dog all happily sitting in my garage/office at 11.42 on a Monday morning, trying to decide whether to do some college work or go to the gymn.
