Just an idea - but if anyone who knows me, and believes I am impartial, and cant make the meeting but would like a hot update via me -> send me the specific things you are concerned about and I'll try and represent them accurately and text/phone you the feedback asap during/after the meeting.
If there turns out to be more than one of you
and you dont mind your specific concerns being confidentially shared, then please let me know how confidential you want to be.
There !
I've either (a) dug myself a deep hole, (b) put myself up as a laughing stock, or (c) prepared a bridge for those that cant make it.
Whatever !
I didnt get where I am today by worrying about what people think of me
However, I'd not be happy if I didnt try and make a positive effort, even if the doomsayers think I'm stupid.