| Which bike/model is it that you have? (there's no mention in the post)
I've got an early 916 (Strada) and have exactly the same 'issues' and was very close to taking it into the dealer to get checked (and probably stripped back down) before I posted up for some pointers here...
Turns out that all the early bikes are like that...
Once you've selected/engaged a gear and are running, it's incredibly tricky (but not impossible) to select neutral if you'r ethen stationary.
The trick is to 'snick' (that'll be my new word for the day) it into neutral as you're rolling towards a stop, coasting that last few feet.
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