| I have always been under the impression that decent stainless steel has a higher tensile stree value than normal steel, so if the bolts are of the same value they will be strong enough.
shazaam's post puts it all dead straight re torque values and lubing of threads, and I see no reason for the heads to be chewing up if the tools used are of good quality. If the head can't resist 30Nm of torque loading should you really be trusting it with your main brakes?
As a point of interest, carbon is the highest member of the galvanic table. How many of us have insulated our frames, forks, swingarms etc from the carbon parts fitted? | 
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